To be fair, almost EVERYONE is at war [with themselves] all the time…it’s the nature of being human:
And that’s just with yourself, let alone alone all the tribalism pulls. It is hard for people to reconcile the differing conflicts of the various groups of which they are a part of and sometimes those differing group value conflicts are hard to reconcile with yourself, let alone completely different groups with entirely opposite values or beliefs on how things should be.
The type of person who can find peace and harmony with themselves and others is someone who is self-aware with high levels of conscientiousness, compassion and resiliency. It requires conscientiousness of accepting your own imperfections, setting and enforcing boundaries for yourself and what you will do in a given situation (not boundaries to control others’ behavior and what you want THEM to do), self care, connection, and being able to disengage from taking things personally, as well as realistically believing that if you truly knew a person’s story…their WHOLE real story, you would love them too…which doesn’t mean you’d support all their decisions, behaviors, etc by any means.
But not everyone wants or needs to find peace and harmony in a lifelong journey. Everyone can determine their own search for meaning. But in a way everyone is either figuratively at war or has been there at some point, whether with themselves, or tribalism of one kind or another.