Things other users should do to improve themselves 🧘

Specific users, I mean.

I predict this topic will have zero replies. This forum is pretty not-presumptuous. :slight_smile:

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Buy more pie? Does this count as a reply?


I suppose not, because not specific to anyone. Presume more.

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Feed all the :turkey: :turkey: (s) and :raccoon: :raccoon: (s) you see. :grin:


Ok, I’m not inclined to do that, you are, and I feel the teensiest bit of resentment at the suggestion… Fair ball, I guess. :slight_smile:

Stay curious, read more, tinker, make informed decisions, have fun, ask questions.


Ok with me. But I’ll add eat all the Frogs you catch, everything not just the legs.

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Hmm, tit for tat, tit for tat… (Difficult, cuz you’re purrfect!)


Embrace your feminine side. :wink:


(What I imagine to be) Resent-able:

Stay curious (this is like a blessing to me, can’t be objective :slight_smile: )
Read more (possibly)
Tinker (less possibly)
Make informed decisions (more likely)


Buy more pie. You like it and you seldom overeat. You deserve it!

Studies show paltry pie affects moderator decision-making. Adequate pie may benefit the community in ways difficult to imagine.

Buy pie! :slight_smile:

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That @carverofchoice AI chatbot needs to learn to be less loquacious and much more concise.
People skip reading half of what it says because it writes too long.

Someone should turn down the “Maximum Length” token setting on that thing.

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Reproach more. Criticize others.

You can practice with me, I’m very reproachable. :slight_smile:

Most people say they want constructive criticism until they actually get some. :joy:

“People ask you for criticism, but they only want praise.” ― W. Somerset Maugham, Of Human Bondage

“The trouble with most of us is that we’d rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.”
― Norman Vincent Peale

Though part of the problem is that few people dish it out constructively.

It is a hard to learn lifeskill that should be taught better…both how to give it and how to receive it. This is becoming increasingly important with the rise of social media as people tend to resort to blatant “attacking” and not treating each other as people as much as they would if they were actually in person.

It’s been interesting reading how increased digital connectivity is affecting people on a sociological level over time, especially the younger people. I don’t want to raise too many controversial points, but related to this topic, I will say that in general feedback is better given and received in person, and baring that, at least fairly privately. If I had feedback or criticism or suggestions to give you, I would generally DM you about it, not post it in a public thread unless there was some value in the correction that would benefit other observers/readers, such as when I correct misinformation or common misunderstandings in a post/thread that it would be good for others to know as well, and even then, such things can be done tactfully/considerately.

Some people misuse “being honest” as a thinking error and an excuse to be mean and say hurtful and exhibit bad sociopathic behavior under the guise of “brutal honesty” just so they can say something that is intended to be mean or hurtful and hope nobody will hold them accountable for being a jerk.

Being honest in no way requires you to not be tactful. Words, timing, and the appropriate environment can make a big difference in being just as honest without being someone that nobody likes. There is also a big difference between being aggressive vs being assertive. Many people have no idea at all what the difference is and insist they are basically the same thing or that they are doing one when it is absolutely the other.

You can usually tell if there is respect involved or not, and if there is no respect, then the criticism is basically invalidated from the start and should likely be mostly discounted.

Sometimes when people are attacking or criticizing me I remind myself of the following and it’s a lot easier for me to just blow off the situation and let it go:

Don’t take criticism (hard) from someone you wouldn’t take (seek/go-to for) advice from.

Don’t take advice from someone on a particular subject who you wouldn’t trade places with (ex: avoid taking financial or investment advice from someone whose finances are far from being in order).

“He has a right to criticize who has a heart to help.” – Abraham Lincoln

“Often those that criticize others reveal what he himself lacks." ― Ralph Waldo Emerson, Emerson in His Journals

“Do not let arrogance go to your head and despair to your heart; do not let compliments go to your head and criticisms to your heart; do not let success go to your head and failure to your heart.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

“Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.” ― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

“Criticism of others is thus an oblique form of self-commendation. We think we make the picture hang straight on our wall by telling our neighbors that all his pictures are crooked.” ― Fulton J. Sheen, Seven Words of Jesus and Mary: Lessons from Cana and Calvary

“Remember: when people tell you something’s wrong or doesn’t work for them, they are almost always right. When they tell you exactly what they think is wrong and how to fix it, they are almost always wrong.” ― Neil Gaiman

But I enjoy criticism from people I respect with good intentions:

“I much prefer the sharpest criticism of a single intelligent man to the thoughtless approval of the masses.” ― Johannes Kepler

“The motive behind criticism often determines its validity. Those who care criticize where necessary. Those who envy criticize the moment they think that they have found a weak spot.” ― Criss Jami, Killosophy

I have found that more often than not, criticism says more about the person issuing the criticism than it does about the person or the thing being criticized.

I think the above are good things to keep in mind in general for anyone giving or receiving criticism.
Unless I’m the one criticizing @cyberdog_17 then there are no holds barred. My frienemy just deserves whatever he gets from me. :joy: :smiling_face_with_three_hearts: :imp: :heart_hands: :dog2:


Good points. I’ll highlight this:

and this:


Make worthwhile posts.

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Fair point. Any value in Mr. Carver’s last comment?

How did I miss this. Wow… :expressionless: :expressionless: :expressionless: :expressionless: :laughing: :rofl: :joy:

Once again, I absolutely expect nothing less LOLOLLL


Haha, gotta call you out to give you an excuse to visit the forums once in a while. :slight_smile:


Be considerate of others.

Use your turn signal.

When making a left at a 4 way stop light, don’t roll up in to the middle of the intersection way over the stop line so you have to make a left at the last moment when the light is turning red. You are supposed to wait at the stop line, then proceed forward making the left once the traffic is clear.

One peeve I have is people who leave their right turn signal on the whole time they are on a cloverleaf exit. Cancel it once you have begun the turn. You can’t go anywhere but right so why leave the signal on? Then when they are merging their right turn signal is still on, even though they want to merge to the left.


“42 Practical Ways to Start Working on Self-Improvement‘

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