re passive aggression
i said this yesterday. It goes to my general state of mind:
The event
I cracked a little wise with this new girl onsite. Then answered her question well. And affectioned her.
She ignores me, posts where I pointed her, and denies affection.
I deleted my comment and affectioned her again.
I was a little sad but pleased with my behavior.
The rationale
Maybe this is a good case study. Was I teasing her? Or heckling her? Or both?
I would say teasing her - with an edge. Ie, both. If she called me on it and I denied it, that would be passive aggressive.
If I admitted it, that would be adult communication, nothing more. We’ve learned about each other, see that we aren’t to each others’ taste and disengage. Also adult.
General affection doesn’t depend on us being compatible. Good will is given freely, because ‘hope.’